Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with postpardum depression?

Im afraid of what the docter would say or do if I told her I would like to get on pills. I feel Im not the mother I should be because of this stupid depression.I sometimes yell at my son or I get angry and upset when he cries for hours.I feel like a failure.Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with postpardum depression?
Grant yourself permission to take the time you need to become a mother. Pregnancy lasts nine months, the adoption process can take even longer, and your baby’s actual birth is only a moment ⎯ but becoming a mother takes time. Motherhood is an immense responsibility. In my opinion, it is the most overwhelming, meaningful, incredible, transforming experience of a lifetime. No wonder it produces such emotional and physical change!





No other event of this magnitude would ever be taken lightly, so don’t feel guilty for treating this time in your life as the very big deal it is. Remind yourself that it’s okay (and necessary) to focus on this new aspect of your life and make it your number-one priority. Tending to a newborn properly takes time ⎯ all the time in his world. So, instead of feeling guilty or conflicted about your new focus, put your heart into getting to know this new little person. The world can wait for a few weeks.





Consider as objectively as you can just what you have accomplished: You have formed a new, entire person inside your own body and brought him forth; you have been party to a miracle. Or, if you've adopted, you've chosen to invite a miracle into your life and became an instant mother. You deserve a break and some space in which to just exist with your amazing little one, unfettered by outside concerns.





Talk to someone who understands.


Talk to a sibling, relative or friend with young children about what you are feeling. Someone who has experienced the baby blues can help you realize that they are temporary, and everything will be fine. A confidante can also serve as a checkpoint who can encourage you to seek help if he or she perceives that you need it.





Talk to someone who understands.


Talk to a sibling, relative or friend with young children about what you are feeling. Someone who has experienced the baby blues can help you realize that they are temporary, and everything will be fine. A confidante can also serve as a checkpoint who can encourage you to seek help if he or she perceives that you need it.





Reach out and get out.


Simply getting out (if you are physically able and okayed for this by your health care provider) and connecting with people at large can go a long way toward reorienting your perspective. Four walls can close in very quickly, so change the scenery and head to the mall, the park, the library, a coffeehouse ⎯ whatever place you enjoy. You’ll feel a sense of pride as strangers ooh and ahh over your little one, and your baby will enjoy the stimulation, too.





Join a support group.


Joining a support group, either in person or online, can help you sort through your feelings about new motherhood.





Take care to choose a group that aligns with your core beliefs about parenting a baby. As an example, if you are committed to breastfeeding, but most other members of the group are bottlefeeding, this may not be the best place for you, since your breastfeeding issues won’t be understood and you won’t find many helpful ideas among this group. If you have multiples, a premature baby, or a baby with special needs, for example, seek out a group for parents with babies like yours. And within those parameters, look for a group with your same overall parenting beliefs. Just because you all have twin babies doesn’t mean you will all choose to parent them in the same way, so try to find like-minded new friends.


Accept help from others.


Family and friends are often happy to help if you just ask. When people say, “Let me know if I can do anything” they usually mean it. So, go ahead and ask kindly for what you want, whether it’s watching your baby so that you can nap, taking your older child to the park, helping you make a meal, or doing some laundry.





Get some sleep.


Right now, sleeplessness will enhance your feelings of depression. So, take every opportunity to get some shuteye. Nap when the baby sleeps, go to bed early, and sleep in later in the morning if you can. If you are co-sleeping, take advantage of this special time when you don’t have to get up out of bed to tend to your baby. And if your baby’s sleep patterns are distressing to you then reach out to an experienced parent for help, or check out my book The No-Cry Sleep Solution: Gentle Ways to Help Your Baby Sleep Through the Night.





Don’t fret about perfection right now.


Household duties are not your top priority now ⎯ in fact, nothing aside from getting to know your baby is. Remember that people are coming to see your baby, not your house, so enjoy sharing your baby with visitors without worrying about a little clutter or dust. Simplify, prioritize, and delegate routine tasks, errands, and obligations.





Enjoy your job.


If you work outside the home, then view your time at your job as an opportunity to refresh and prepare yourself to enjoy your baby fully when you are at home. Go ahead ⎯ talk about your baby and share pictures with your co-workers. Chances are, they’ll love to hear about your new little one. This is a nice and appropriate way of indulging your natural instincts to focus on your baby when you can’t be with her.





Get into exercising.


With your health care provider’s approval, start exercising with short walks or swims. Exercise will help you feel better in many ways both physical and emotional. Even if you didn’t exercise before you had your baby, this is a great time to start. Studies prove that regular exercise helps combat depression, and it will help you regain your pre-baby body much more quickly.





Eat healthful foods.


When the body isn’t properly nourished, spirits can flag ⎯ particularly when the stress of recovery makes more nutritional demands. If you are breastfeeding, a nourishing diet is important for both you and your baby. Healthful foods, eaten in frequent meals, can provide the nutrition you need to combat the baby blues and give you the energy you need to handle your new role. And don’t forget to drink water and other healthy fluids, especially if you’re nursing! Dehydration can cause fatigue and headaches.





Take care of yourself.


Parenting a new baby is an enormous responsibility, but things will fall into place for you and everything will seem easier given time. During this adjustment phase, try to do a few things for yourself. Simple joys like reading a book, painting your nails, going out to lunch with a friend or other ways in which you nourish your spirit can help you feel happier.





Love yourself.


You are amazing: You’ve become mother to a beautiful new baby. You’ve played a starring role in the production of an incredible miracle. Be proud of what you’ve accomplished, and take the time to know and enjoy the strong, capable, multifaceted person you are becoming.Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with postpardum depression?
Get help now! I was depressed after my second child was born. I am very lucky my husband was so keyed into it and he and I talked about it a lot and we went together and talked with my doctor. I missed out on some of my little girls life. I just wanted to lay around all day. I would not get dressed and cried all the time for months. Please talk to your spouse, a close friend, or a parent. You have already taken a step here. I wish you lots of luck.





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I had it for about 3 weeks, and then it went away on it's own. By your 6 week checkup it should be gone, and if it isn't tell your doctor. This is totally normal though. You are not a failure. Our hormones affect us so much and you aren;t in control of your emotions. Hopefully you have a lot of support around you, dont be afraid to talk about the way you are feeling an ask for help.
Postpartum depession is normal for some women, from what you are telling, you need some pills to help you out. Dont worry about what your doctor will think of you. the way you are now is hurting not only yourself but the baby also. In the mean time try to get someone to help you out around the house and with the baby. take a walk, or just a warm bath. Don't feel guilty about having to put the baby in a safe place while you relax for a few min. Talk to your doctor he/she wont look down on you for getting some help.
I recently started taking pills for PPD. They do help and while i was afraid to see my doctor, he was very supportive. But remember that exercise and social support eg counselling, mothers group supportive family/friends are also vital in recovery. If your doctor wont help then find someone who will.
Don't be scared you can ask your Doctor she will most likely be happy your smart enough to ask for them pills on your own. This is not your fault you can't control it and your not a failure. Do what you have to do to enjoy being a mommy.
TELL THE DOCTOR! They don't judge you! They see this all the time! That is why they tell you to tell them! It happens to more moms than you think! If you feel this way you have to tell someone who can help. Reach out to your spouse, your mom, anyone you trust. Please, your baby needs you to do this, but you need to do it for yourself, too.
First you are NOT a failure. Second you are not the first and will not be the last mother to yell at her baby.





Doctors take any indication of PPD very seriously, you need to talk to your doctor and tell her everything. She can and will help you.
Do not worry about what the doctor would say or do. Make an appointment and be honest about he severityof your symptoms. Everyone gets the baby blues to some extent. You are not alone. Is there anyone who could come over and let you get a nap or a shower while they care for your baby?





Does your son have colic, or is he having teething pain? Hylands makes a like of homeopathic pills that are wonderful for curing both maladies. Stopping the constant crying might go a long way towards helping your stress and frustration level. It is normal to get really exhausted and angry when a baby cries for hours on end. Try taking him on a car ride, running the vacuum, putting his carrier on top of the washer.





This stage doesn't last forever. Hang on!
your not a failure as a mother don't listen to tom cruise lol call your doctor he can put you on something until you feel better if you don't wanna take anything try joining a mommy group or talk to other mothers with young children congrats and good luck
You are not a failure at all. You are a good parent as you are seeking help SO GOOD FOR YOU. Medication is the right way too go. It is a chemical inbalance you are suffering from with PND and medicaton will fix it all and you will be a new woman and be able to deal with things better. Do not be embarrassed. The pills are not forever and your doctor will be happy you came to her/him. Go tomorrow you won't regret it
I always found that Prayor works better then drugs
Doctors, especially OB/GYNS are trained to deal with this and they do not think that you are a failure. Look at Brooke Shields...even she had a problem with this, and she is a great mother.